LESSON #3 – GROW SPIRITUALLY & MATURE EMOTIONALLY

It doesn’t matter how educated you are. It doesn’t matter how physically attractive you may be. It doesn’t matter how financially independent or stable you may be. Although those are great accomplishments, they are simply on the surface level of who you are. Your beauty, and success do not define you. As a woman, your character and depth in your relationship with God is what will always define who you truly are. It’s also what will attract like-minded individuals into your life.

your character and depth in your relationship with God is what will always define who you truly are. It’s also what will attract like-minded individuals into your life

I wanted to save today’s post as the last part of this 3 week series we have been doing because there were a few important things regarding today’s final part that God was putting on my heart to share with you. It can be easy to sum everything in two sentences, but in order for you to walk away with something of substance we need to look at these issues closely and address them appropriately. If as single, God fearing women we can focus on these steps then not only will our season of singleness be filled with purpose, but we will also be able to position ourselves where we need to be for the right partner that God is trying to bring into our lives.

So you ask, what are these issues that need to be addressed? The first one is:

SPIRITUAL GROWTH

Spiritual growth is not simply attained by attending church, or looking and sounding “christian”. Spiritual growth is a result of the relationship you have with Jesus. That is the first man that you need to know, and learn how to love with all of your heart. In order for spiritual growth to occur, you first need to make sure you possess a true spiritual life through faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.

In 1 Peter 3:18 we are encouraged to

grow in grace, and in the KNOWLEDGE of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.[..]
and in 1 Peter 3:1-8 it says:
His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our KNOWLEDGE OF HIM who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Peter gives us a pretty good idea of what Spiritual growth includes and it can be summed up in these 4 steps:

1) Increasing your knowledge and understanding of who God is through His Word (extremely important).
2) Decreasing in your frequency and severity of sin by allowing the knowledge of God (through His word) to transform you.
3) Increasing in your practice of Christ-like qualities (learning to treat others, and conduct yourself in Christ-like manner)
4) Increasing in your faith and trust in God (believing that He holds all things in His hands)

However, the ultimate example of what it means to be spiritual is found in Jesus Christ. In 1 Corinthians 11:1 Paul says

Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.
Ladies, we have to understand how important it is that we grow in our relationship with Jesus Christ. So many of us are in a rush to meet a Godly man, when we have not yet understood what it means to be a Godly woman. So many of us want a man with “the heart of Jesus” when we have not understood the heart of Jesus for ourselves.
So many of us want a man with “the heart of Jesus” when we have not understood the heart of Jesus for ourselves

Spiritual growth is not for God — it’s for you. In the journey of growing in Jesus, you begin to understand who YOU are in HIM. Your confidence in Him grows. Your identity becomes clear. Your vision becomes clear, and overall your growth in Him shapes you, equips you, and prepares you not just for your future husband but for your present and future purpose.

MATURITY

Ladies, spiritual growth is necessary. However, character development and emotional/mental maturity is equally IMPORTANT.

As sufficient as we may think our beauty is, the reality is — it’s not. It’s not enough that you’re externally beautiful. It never will be. In fact, Peter reminds you to “let not your adornment be merely external” in other words, don’t let it be about how flawless you look on the outside. Instead, “it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty [..]”.

If someone was to look at your heart, or get a glimpse of your true character, would it be as attractive as your physical appearance may be?
If someone was to look at your heart, or get a glimpse of your true character, would it be as attractive as your physical appearance may be? We need to learn to be women grounded in discipline, courage, grace, strength, and honor — all of which are internal and unfading.

Ladies, I am going to say this with love and be honest. Some of you are single NOT because God wants you to be alone, or because of lack of suitors. It’s actually because your character still needs work. You walk around making excuses for yourself talking about “God is still working on me” but the truth is, you’re actually not letting Him work on you. You have not been willing to grow in the areas that God is trying to discipline you in.

You refuse to receive correction and discipline. You get overly defensive when told you’re wrong. Some of you ladies are not willing to practice Christ-like qualities such as love, obedience, gentleness, humility, patience, forgiveness, compassion etc. Some of you ladies are so consumed with pride. Some of you ladies do a pretty good job at being high for Jesus at Church or in front of others, but some days it’s hard to determine if you’re even saved… like for real! We need to clean up.

We need to get rid of bitterness, PRIDE (this is huge), anger, JEALOUSY, rebellion, disobedience, and resentment. None of these traits are attractive to God, let alone to a Godly man.

I am not saying this to judge or accuse you. Everything I’m telling you is what I used to struggle with, or currently am still struggling with as well. I am saying this because we need to stop making excuses for ourselves and start looking at the areas of our lives that are in need of improvement.  I am not suggesting that you have to be perfect, but you do have to be willing to grow and mature as the Godly woman you say you are.

you do have to be willing to grow and mature as the Godly woman you say you are

We need to realize that being a Godly woman is not limited to what we do in front of others. Being a Godly woman is about allowing God Himself to transform us into His likeness so that we may represent Him in all areas of our lives– from the way we speak and treat others, to the way we view ourselves and others. You are all so precious to His sight and He desires for nothing more but to be seen THROUGH every single one of you. When we uphold this type of Godly character, then we become a reflection of His light to the world around us. We begin to reflect a light that attracts all the things that are of Him into our lives.  

Love you all!

See you next Friday.

Written by Christina Girma

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