Last Friday we had the opportunity to discuss the first two points that are absolutely necessary for single women to focus on. We discussed the importance of remaining thankful in every season, and learning to seek the Kingdom of God before and above all things (including a husband). If you have not read last week’s Part 1, I strongly recommend you take two minutes of your time to get caught up.

As mentioned in Part 1 last week, this is not meant to condemn women who desire marriage. In fact, it’s good to desire something as beautiful as the blessing of a life partner. However, this post is about having the right perspective in the process of waiting. Ladies, we need to understand that if we desire God’s best, then there are certain expectations on our end that God requires us to meet. It’s important that we get our priorities straight and remain as women of purpose even in the season of singleness.

It’s important that we get our priorities straight and remain as women of purpose even in the season of singleness

Continuing where we left off..

LESSON #3 – CHANGING THE FOCUS OF OUR PRAYERS

Like most things that we pray for, the prayer for a husband is often times based on a specific list and requirement we have as individuals. We bring our list of traits to God, and trust that those will be delivered to us accordingly. But I believe that as women of this day and age, we need to learn how to pray given this particular moment in history, not just pray to meet our own needs.

As women of this day and age, we need to learn how to pray given this particular moment in history, not just pray to meet our own needs
Our society today suffers from broken homes primarily caused by the absence of fathers within a home. Take a minute and think about all the single mothers you know. In addition to that, there is an epidemic of divorce that is higher in our generation than any other time before. Spiritual maturity and the fear of God is lacking in the lives of many men out there (whether they are in or out of the Church).

In Ephesians 5:25 it says:

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
For men to be able to love and commit as Christ does for the Church, we need to pray! Ladies, it’s on us to build these men up through our prayers. Not just for our own sake, but for the sake of the Church and for the sake of society.

All these things considered, as women we need to look at the bigger picture and change the focus of our prayers from “I need” to “We need”. Before we can begin to pray for men as suitors, we need to pray for our brothers to rise up and be the men that God has created them to be.

Before we can begin to pray for men as suitors, we need to pray for our brothers to rise up and be the men that God has created them to be
Ladies, we need to start asking God to raise up a generation of God fearing men who will rise up to the call of being God fearing leaders, God fearing husbands, and God fearing fathers.

It’s not just about them..

This however, does not only apply to men. Men are not the only ones that God needs to work on. Ladies, we too need a lot of prayer. We need to pray asking the Holy Spirit to show us the parts within ourselves that need to be removed, healed, and/or renewed.

We need to pray for the women of our day and age. We must come before God and ask Him to raise up a generation of women who are a reflection of Him in all areas of their lives. In 1 Peter 3:3-4 it says:

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

We need to pray for a generation of women whose confidence, strength, beauty and wisdom comes from intimacy with the Lord; a generation of women who understand obedience and submission to God as well as to Godly authority; a generation of women who build their homes and ministries on the foundation of Jesus Christ; a generation of women who can be God fearing leaders, wives, and mothers.

It’s not enough that we say a prayer catered to meet our own individual needs. In our season of singleness we are able to observe all the chaos and challenges surrounding marriage and family so that we can pray for the generation of men and women today. When we begin to pray for both men and women then we begin to contribute towards the rise of healthy Churches, healthy families, and overall a healthy society.

Stay Tuned!

**For now, I will stop here and let you reflect on what we have discussed. Next week we will conclude by looking at Lesson #4, and discuss the importance of character development and Spiritual/emotional maturity. You don’t want to miss it.**

Stay blessed and fabulous. Love you ladies!

See you next Friday.

Written by Christina Girma

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  1. Ayanna July 8, 2016 at 2:17 pm Reply

    Amazing post Christina!

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