You’re educated, you’re driven and accomplished, God fearing with a decent character, but you wonder why there isn’t a ring on your left hand yet. Trust me girl, you ain’t alone.

But before you start wondering where your husband is, it’s important that we talk about somethings.

Is wishing for your Prince Charming to show up, a bad thing? Absolutely not. Longing for love and marriage are only part of the natural desires that God has put within us women. Unfortunately, that innocent desire often times turns into an idol that begins to dictate the steps of our lives. We allow ourselves to become obsessed with this need of getting married, and lose sight of what we should be shifting our focus to.

Since there are a few points that God has put on my heart to share with you sisters, I have broken up this topic in two separate posts. Today’s post is Part 1. Next Friday will be Part 2, which will conclude the remaining points. Make sure to follow along and stay tuned.

LESSON #1 – GIVE THANKS & HAVE A THANKFUL ATTITUDE

Ladies, if you can’t truly be thankful for the season you are in now, then you will not be thankful in the next. The bible in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 reminds us to always:

Give thanks IN ALL circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

You’re single? GREAT. BE THANKFUL. Being single is not a curse, it’s a blessing. It’s a blessing with many opportunities for growth, empowerment, and intimacy with the Lord. Thank Him for the opportunity you have right now to grow in your faith, and grow in your dependence on Him.

Being single is not a curse, it’s a blessing. Thank Him for the opportunity you have right now to grow in your faith, and grow in your dependence on Him
Thank Him for what He is teaching you about yourself, and for all that He is revealing to you about Himself. Thank Him for the people He is sending your way to sharpen, teach, and equip you to be a woman of Godly influence. Thank Him for the specific purpose He has given YOU NOW to fulfill as an INDIVIDUAL.

Each season has a purpose of it’s own, but if you are so focused on trying to get out of it, you will never discover that purpose. Don’t rush the process of getting out of the season you are in before the appointed time.

Don’t rush the process of getting out of the season you are in before the appointed time
Your season of singleness does not mean loneliness, it means preparation for the next season. Lastly, having a thankful attitude is not praying to God saying “thank you for this season Lord”, but then getting up and complaining or grumbling about how you’re still single. Instead, it’s about the posture of your heart. Your prayer to God saying “thank you for this season” should flow out of a heart of gratitude, which should reflect in your attitude.  Develop a discipline that allows you to see all the reasons you have to be thankful in each season. Always remember, a thankful heart is the doorway to greater blessings.

LESSON #2 – KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS & BE CONTENT IN HIM ALONE

Firstly. It can be difficult to keep our eyes on Jesus when people are constantly reminding us of our ‘single’ status, and God forbid– our age. We begin to feel the pressure coming in from different places and we slowly allow everyone else’s desires to redefine our priorities. Ladies, the scripture in Matthew 6:33 helps us to get our priorities straight by reminding us to:

SEEK FIRST the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

The meaning of this verse is as direct as it sounds. We are to seek His kingdom above all else, and before all else — including a husband. Does this mean that we should neglect the desire we may have to be loved by someone, no. But as women of God there should be a difference in attitude toward the earthly blessings that we desire, versus the eternal Kingdom of God that we are called to pursue.

as women of God there should be a difference in attitude toward the earthly blessings that we desire, versus the eternal Kingdom of God that we are called to pursue
The arrangement that God is making with you in Matthew 6:33 is as simple as this: When you prioritize taking care of God’s business such as living in obedience to Him, seeking His face, and sharing the good news of the kingdom with others, He then takes care of your business.

Let me be VERY clear. God is not trying to cut a deal with you. He is giving you an opportunity to experience the power of His kingdom so that your satisfaction and joy in life is never based upon, or limited to things that come with an expiration date (a.k.a all earthly things). So, stop giving God deadlines or ultimatums, and start getting busy. There is plenty of work waiting for you.

Secondly. If your need for a man is greater than your need for God, then that indicates a far greater void in your life than one that any man could ever fill for you. In fact, if you cannot be content with having Jesus alone, then whatever man comes into your life (no matter how perfect he is) will not only become your idol, but he will also be a man that never fulfills you.

If your need for a man is greater than your need for God, then that indicates a far greater void in your life than one that any man could ever fill for you
Contentment in Jesus is found when we take the time to get to know Jesus. The reason why we often experience discontentment in Jesus and seek for pleasure, VALIDATION (this one is huge) and fulfillment in people is because many of us have not taken the time to taste and see who He really is.

Ladies, WE STILL DON’T KNOW JESUS THE WAY WE SHOULD. Is that not concerning? But we are concerned at the fact that a man hasn’t put a ring on our finger.

*[insert Kermit the frog meme]*.

We waste endless energy constantly seeking in a man for the things that can only be found in Jesus. And our miserable attempts in looking for our needs in all the wrong places only result in bigger baggage to carry around, and deep wounds in need of healing. Say ‘amen’ somebody if you know what I’m talking about.. and I know you do.

ASK YOURSELF..

If marriage never happened for you, would you still be content with continuing your journey of life with Jesus? Ladies, I’m not trying to promote a life of singleness or trying to condemn you for desiring “a happily ever after”, but I am trying to shift your focus back to your first love– Jesus– The One who holds your entire life (including love life) in His hands.

***Stay tuned. Next week will be Part 2. We will discuss what our prayers need to look like in this area.***

Stay blessed and fabulous. Love you ladies!

See you next Friday.

Written by Christina Girma

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