When I was 18, I had the joy of finally experiencing independence (for all of 2 seconds). Right out of high school I decided to move to Toronto to pursue post secondary education and was extremely excited to finally be in a city I had been dreaming of for years prior. Now, anyone else reading this that suffers from ‘only child syndrome’ as I do, will understand just how challenging it was for my mother to let me go.
However, with certain agreements in place, she finally made peace with letting me go (or so I thought). But the dream of independence was short lived when only two months into my new city, my mother broke her own agreements and surprised me by showing up – TO PERMANENTLY STAY!
When my mother moved she naturally brought along so much of our stuff. Everything from my childhood, to our old furniture and appliances, and all of these things that added so much clutter in our new home. In her attempt to recreate as much of our old home, she only added clutter. There was barely any space to move around or breathe in. And very quickly this new exciting place began looking like a junkyard.
Unlike myself, my mother was not ready to let go. She had only moved for the sake of being with me, but wasn’t really ready to let go of our life in the previous city we lived in. Therefore having all of our old stuff gave her some type of comfort, when in reality it only prevented us from enjoying our new space.
The Junk We Accumulate & The Comfort We Find In It
Ladies, we often go through so much emotionally, mentally, and spiritually while going through this process called life. And our process of growth often times reveals just how much junk we have accumulated throughout our journey.
Let’s get real ladies. There is junk that we accumulate from our past, junk we accumulate from the influence of others or past relationships, junk that we accumulate from burdens, insecurities, frustrations, worries, and fears. This is the type of junk that holds us back from experiencing genuine growth and real transformation. It’s the type of junk that not only creates such a mess in our own lives, but makes it challenging for those around us to grow with us and deal with us. It’s the type of junk that HINDERS every area of our lives.
The dangerous part about the junk we accumulate is that often times we actually build comfort in it. It doesn’t seem to bother us as much as it should, or cause the urgency to get rid of it. In fact, we don’t want to get rid of it because we are not ready to let it go in exchange for embracing the new blessings and new identity that God wants to give us. Instead, we get comfortable going from one season of life to the next while carrying junk that we don’t need, and creating clutter everywhere we go.
We wonder why relationships are not working out. We wonder why certain doors of opportunity won’t open. We wonder why people won’t see us for who we think we are. Meanwhile we refuse to acknowledge and examine the junk that is cluttering up our hearts and using up the space in our lives that God wants to use to fill us with His blessings.
Ladies, It’s Time To Get Rid Of The Junk And Be Filled With His Presence
In Psalm 81:6 God says:
Let me clarify what “coming to Him” means. It’s more than just unloading your issues and resuming your life. It’s about developing a relationship with Him that allows Him to continually work on you.
When I rededicated my life to Christ and began taking my walk with Him seriously I was a mess internally. I was carrying so much mental, and emotional junk that stemmed from many different influences and unhealthy relationships. Part of it stemmed from lack of Spiritual depth, refusal of discipline, and lack of a consistent relationship with Jesus. In fact looking back at my life now, it amazes me to see who I am today versus who I was just 5 years ago. That journey wasn’t easy – and it still isn’t some days. There was so much God had to remove from within me in order to fill me with what was of Him. For that to happen however, I had to first commit myself into a relationship with Him and secondly, I had to allow Him to begin removing the junk I was carrying. That was tough. There were deep wounds that needed to be healed. Resentment that needed to be removed and insecurities that needed to be dealt with. I was defensive and spent the first half of that journey trying to justify myself to God instead of simply surrendering to Him.
But ladies, sometimes as broken as we may be, as hurt as we may be, as cluttered as we may be, when we come to God understanding that on our own we could never achieve who we’re suppose to be then there is a sense of relief! There is relief in finally knowing that it’s not our job to fix ourselves – it’s HIS! It’s our job to simply come to God with the acknowledgement of the things in our lives that need to be removed, and the willingness of surrendering to Him so that He can begin His work.
Becoming Uncluttered Means Finally Walking In The Fullness Of Our Purpose
When you are not being dragged around by unnecessary junk and finally have the freedom to walk upright in the confidence that comes from knowing who you are in Him, then you can begin to fulfill the purpose that God has given you.
Ladies, the process of being used by God begins by surrendering to by God. We cannot live for Him, walk in His purpose for us, or assume we are pleasing Him by holding on to junk in our lives that contradict what He is trying to do within us, and through us. Does He still love you? ABSOLUTELY. Are you still worthy to Him? WITHOUT A DOUBT. But we can’t just settle there. As any parent desires to see their child grow, He too desires to see His daughters grow in Him and be a reflection of Him from WITHIN.
I pray that this post encourages all of us, and causes each one of us to look within ourselves and depend on His power to transform us into becoming more like Him each day.
Love you ladies!