Written By Guest Writer: Loza Dejene

Our Need To Belong

Deep in our hearts, we all long to belong. Even Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, a famous theory in psychology, explains this desire for “belongingness” as a natural part of human growth and motivation. In addition to fitting into groups, we also strive to fit into time and space. We long to leave a mark. We yearn to accomplish all that we can with where we are and what we have.

This incessant search for place and purpose was vividly illustrated to me during a recent family luncheon. Thinking it would be a great family bonding activity, my older sister brought out a box of different puzzles for us to work on together (cheesy, I know). After completing two 100 piece puzzles, a few of us agreed we were ready to work on the more detailed 300 piece puzzle. Thirty minutes into the puzzle, we barely even had the border in place. Here are three lessons I learned:

1) It is extremely difficult to put puzzle pieces together without looking at the final image.
2) The details of the final image are what make the puzzle most challenging.
3) The more pieces there are, the more complicated the puzzle becomes.

These three lessons I found are also very applicable to life and our desire to belong. Follow me here.

He Sees The Big Picture

We are all pieces in a larger puzzle, and each of us are uniquely and specifically made by God with a purpose to fit us into the bigger picture. The only problem is, instead of valuing our own design and strategic placement, we spend our lives comparing ourselves to those around us. It has been said that “comparison is the thief of joy” and when we feed the ravenous creature that is comparison, we diminish our dynamic personal narratives.

It has been said that “comparison is the thief of joy” and when we feed the ravenous creature that is comparison, we diminish our dynamic personal narratives.
Then, before we know it, our joy has jumped ship and we are left feeling alone, insignificant, and inadequate. We spend our time trying to fit in, but manage only to weasel ourselves in the wrong places at the wrong times.

Long before we tire out from trying to “fit in,” we should remember how limited our perspective can be.  God alone sees the final big picture.  In addition, only a God of omnipresence and omnipotence could weave together more than almost 7.2 billion intricate pieces (more if we include the past and future) while considering the fine detail and complexity of how they all come together.  How mind blowing! Acts 17:26 reads

From one man He made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and He marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands.
This verse reminds us that God knew the finished product and how we would fit into it from the beginning. This is no coincidence. He sees the bigger picture.

Final Thoughts

Though we may have a limited vantage point, we can be assured by His faithful record that the placement of our puzzle piece in life’s bigger picture is glorious

Though we may have a limited vantage point, we can be assured by His faithful record that the placement of our puzzle piece in life’s bigger picture is glorious
(Ecc 3:11). So when you find yourself discouraged, feeling out of place, or inadequate, keep pressing on (Heb 12:1-3). Remember that you have a God that is working in you (Phil 1:6) as much as He is working through you, and where He has placed you is no mistake. Find hope in His word that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139). Just as every piece in a puzzle is needed, you are too. Remain in His hands, and trust that He will place you exactly where you’re supposed to be.

You Matter,

Written by: Loza Dejene
Residence: Oklahoma
Website: www.lozadejene.com and www.thebemovment.strikingly.com

Written by Christina Girma

    1 Comment

  1. Elbethel November 30, 2015 at 3:35 pm Reply

    Bless your heart Loza!
    I was having conversation with a Pastor. And he was explaining to me to be where God wants us to be. And pastor was using “Puzzle” example ?. After we finished our conversation and end the call. I got the email form this blog and started reading and puzzle picture was i saw first. It was not a coincidence! Thank you Holy Spirit!
    Glory Be His all day long! Amen, I Matter☺

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